What got a raise out of an eye brow today?

"Don't worry about those poems, they are bullshit." My out spoken and highly confident 60 year old language guru, Sree Kumar, in response to my statement of "I will read these poems in chapter 8 while I am out of town next week to practice my reading."  ALL riiighty then.

This day has started off on an introspective note...I am not sure why but while walking to language class today I was dwelling on the fact that my good friend Rumpita called me late last night to tell me she was engaged...she met him on Tuesday and decided last night she would accept the engagement. She started off the conversation with "it is because you prayed". Well, ok, I have been praying God would bring her a great Christian husband after hearing of the not so successful previous arranged marriage prospects,  but gosh...I have a hard time accepting that "it was because I prayed".  Praise God he is a Christian, because she comes from a Brahmin Hindu family and when parents arrange a marriage it is usually same caste, meaning also same religion.  It turns out that this time it was not her parents that arranged the marriage but a lady who I actually know, who is also a great Christian lady...BUT it works THAT fast? Someone wants you to meet this guy whom they know, so you do, and you like him enough, so 2 days later you are engaged to be married???? Why does this whole concept send me reeling each time I experience it???

Here is a "snap" someone took of me and Rumpita one day while we were waiting on the bus. She had brought me a guava with chili powder on it...so she laughs as I eat it...and you know, I think it tastes better with the chili powder.

MAYBE we "love marriage" people have it all wrong....MAYBE marriage is all about pure commitment to the institution and it is you and your mate that determine the quality of your life there in... MAYBE arranged marriage forces you to accept things about someone that love marriage people make a BIG deal out of when they are actually petty things, without much hesitation, because you know that you are committed to them and must work it out... MAYBE love IS a choice...MAYBE marriage is just about "the time" (being ready for the commitment) more so than it being about "the one"...MAYBE something else in this world that we make so complicated is actually pretty simple. maybe...maybe...maybe...maybe...maybe...maybe...maybe.....???